Hi, I’m Sandra L. Kearse-Stockton author, veteran, and survivor. 

In the beginning when I decided to actually sit down and write my first book. The only audience I had in mind was my children. At that time my husband and I had been married 48 years. We sat down one day and had a serious discussion about generational wealth. We knew at that time we didn’t have savings or prop- erties or any other investments to pass on to our children. So I decided that my book about my life would be their generational wealth. Money and investments can be spent and gone but my story cannot. One of things missing in my family is family history, so I want- ed to be the start of a new family trend, passing on our history for generations to come.

Only a soldier can tell you that the military is one of the most physically and mentally demanding jobs in the world. It taught me patience which is a much needed skill of a writer. There is an old saying in the military,”Hurry up and wait”. So, I became good with patience and resilience. As for as storytelling, I have always been good at it. I am one of seven children, the second oldest and I have always had the opportunity to sit down and tell stories to my siblings, then to my children and now to my grandchildren and great grand children. Storytelling is my craft.

There have been so many memorable stories in my life with being an advocate for and taking care of foster children. Allow me to introduce you to Richard a white young teen at 17. He became one of two teenagers living with us at that time, and that teen was Black. One Saturday afternoon we took the boys out to lunch at Olive Garden. The waitress handed us all menus I looked over at Richard and he had tears in his eyes. I asked him what was wrong and he said that he didn’t know that Black people went out to dinner like White people. My husband and I were kind of surprised but not shocked. I told him it was okay and to select want he wanted eat. Later that evening when he was alone with my husband, he said that his dad was a Ku Klux Klan supporter and would never allow a black person to come into his home. To make a long story short, Richard died in the automobile accident about a year after he left us, my husband and I went to his funeral. While we were there, Richard’s father approached us and introduce himself as Richard’s father. He thanked us for taking care of his son, reached over and embraced Aaron. Now we were in shock! (There’s Always Room for One More, co-authored by Sandra and Aaron Stockton).

While vacationing in France in March of 2023, our youngest daughter experienced a terrible automobile accident in the United States. We did not know of the accident until we returned home and heard about it from her. Not only was her life altered but so was mine and her father‘s. We became her caregivers and chauffeurs. She has been through surgeries and multiple physical and mental therapies. To see her breakdown when she couldn’t remember things that she always knew, was horrible. Almost 2 1/2 years has passed and she’s still not back to work full-time. I read up on memory lost from injuries, dementia and Alzheimer’s, but they all have a lot of things in common but the most common one is that you lose your memory in stages and if we could stop it in its tracks, what would that take? That is why my daughter and I wrote this book to give people a tool with some ideas of what to do when they first notice memory loss in themselves or loved ones. The name was important because she felt although she was struggling to tell providers and family members what she was going through, she was aware of her deficiencies. (Runaway Train, the Conductor Is Still On Board, co-authored by Sandra L. Kearse-Stockton and Karmentrina Kearse).

Before I stand up and pick up a microphone to start to speak. I’m mentally prepared because my negative memories have long since been reframed into learning experiences that may be beneficial to the emotional healing of others.

By deciding what is most relevant to me. Is the cause something I want to fight for or is it something that I need to fight for? Writing gives me a platform to raise awareness.

My oldest sister was very helpful in clearing up some memories that I had, like growing up as a child in a domestic violence atmosphere. Something that no child should ever have to experience. While I was writing my first book, Surviving Unpredictability, my siblings, supported me even though they did not all agree with what I had to say after reading it. We all lived in the same home, and saw the same scenes play out, but differently in our own minds. As far as my husband and my children, they rooted for me from the beginning, and they still support me on my author journey.

I believe that my books are very engaging and if one reads them the impact will last a lifetime. I have met many people on this journey and I have told my story many times. There are so many others out there whose stories mirror my story. I hope that the information in my books will help them to write their own story and free themselves of their past. Because everyone has a book or two in them.

I think I have already told all of my life history to date but would like to is explore fiction. As I said before, I’m a good storyteller I think I would do well with fiction.

I would advise them to think about getting a mentor and hopefully free. There is so much more out there available online for writers to take advantage of. I had a mentor who was referred to me by my sis- ter who worked for an author. We connected and she mentored me for 10 months at $300 a month. It was well worth it. She got me my first TV interview, radio interview and presented in a magazine. Find one then research them to make sure that they are legitimate. There are so many people out here now scamming new authors, trying to find their way. I have spent thousands of dollars wishing and praying that somebody was gonna really help me. But one thing I want to say to you is do not pay out money anybody who comes to you and says they can do something for you and the first thing out of her mouth is that you need to send them money run. I have a website you can go to it if you need help email me and I will try to answer your question.